tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post1217626246065536284..comments2024-03-15T22:00:36.095-07:00Comments on Dr. Kathy McCoy: Living Fully in Midlife and Beyond: Friendships Lost and RememberedDr. Kathy McCoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02903015507894951725noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-46197137526821899112013-07-28T23:18:24.847-07:002013-07-28T23:18:24.847-07:00The strongest friendships and relationships happen...The strongest friendships and relationships happen, I believe, when we are God-centered first. They are, by their nature, unselfish and loving, having the best interest of the other at heart. <a href="http://www.intro.ie" rel="nofollow">dating agencies dublin</a><br />Elizabeth J. Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01824134730760179008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-57685227636935402922013-07-19T08:41:25.470-07:002013-07-19T08:41:25.470-07:00I always get so much out of your observations.
I&...I always get so much out of your observations.<br /><br />I've lost a handful of friends, and I can see where their deaths will some day bring new pain: the loss of not only their lives but also the loss of a piece of not their but my own history. Do you know what I mean?<br /><br />PearlPearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261369905176088917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-81395704716810966012013-07-17T20:16:55.129-07:002013-07-17T20:16:55.129-07:00This truly was a wonderful post. I appreciate you...This truly was a wonderful post. I appreciate your empathy and understand of Dee's loss and appreciate how you used this event in her life to help us see the importance of friendship and the losses of those friendships. I lost a dear, dear friend to cancer a few years ago. I wrote a long letter to her daughter describing many memories I had of her mother during our high school and college days. I never heard a word from her daughter. I thought this was so strange, but maybe she just didn't have the social skills to respond. I know her mother had a difficult time with her daughter and that the girls was so different from her mother. In the end, I was just grateful I sat down and wrote the memories out. I realized that doing so was for me as much as for the reader. Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-26544686528662124892013-07-16T20:40:40.129-07:002013-07-16T20:40:40.129-07:00I'm so sorry for Dee's loss too. This is ...I'm so sorry for Dee's loss too. This is a beautiful post. And so helpful for everyone reading it.Crazy Life of a Writing Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16064939499412649850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-3327731207182664502013-07-16T10:44:55.642-07:002013-07-16T10:44:55.642-07:00You never duck the complexity of relationships in ...You never duck the complexity of relationships in your posts, Kathy, which is why they are so wise and helpful. I'm so sorry for Dee's loss and for your own lost friendship.Perpetuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01214396019726161983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-48599234653625286032013-07-15T10:43:01.148-07:002013-07-15T10:43:01.148-07:00These are important topics, Kathy. These are important topics, Kathy. Rosaria Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-47380661481915927672013-07-15T09:36:18.382-07:002013-07-15T09:36:18.382-07:00Great message for us all. We don't need to wa...Great message for us all. We don't need to wait until someone dies to express our love to them... BUT--sometimes we do wait too long --and it's too late.<br /><br />I have a friend (who was my best friend for 20 yrs.) that I've written several times --trying to catch back up with after 12+ years of estrangement. The friendship did not end well--but I do miss her. AND--I have tried to make amends.. However, she is not ready or willing to do so... Very sad...<br /><br />Hugs,<br />BetsyBetsy Banks Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16223591156634767330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-85508068306407256832013-07-15T09:15:36.964-07:002013-07-15T09:15:36.964-07:00Thank y ou for writing this. I might learn from it...Thank y ou for writing this. I might learn from it and concentrate on the good that was shared.Lornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12921536392529606099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-82633223194744082312013-07-15T05:02:31.162-07:002013-07-15T05:02:31.162-07:00I remember finding that book to be great solace af...I remember finding that book to be great solace after the loss of my first "grown-up" love. It just didn't work out and while we now live in different cities, we are friendly, if not in touch. But then, when living nearby, it was very hard. And I think we have all had friends who have let us down a bit -- intentionally or not, change in priorities or not -- it hurts. Those are find words to remember.<br /><br />I am so sorry about Dee's loss.Sometimes losing a friend is almost harder than a relative because with family everyone rallies around. With a friend -- it's different. Yet in my case, with a small family, my friends ARE family. They hold the same spot in my heart.<br /><br />Your story of the actress friend makes me sad; you deserved so much more from a friend, and while she may have been speaking in goodness, at least about the job, to not understand your priorities and more important accept them, is hard indeed. How gracious that you can remember the good.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-22345074137752339092013-07-14T16:38:30.263-07:002013-07-14T16:38:30.263-07:00I'm sorry for Dee's loss ... this is a goo...I'm sorry for Dee's loss ... this is a good message, Kathy.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-15804515066042448912013-07-14T12:03:11.285-07:002013-07-14T12:03:11.285-07:00Dear Kathy, thank you for bringing all the threads...Dear Kathy, thank you for bringing all the threads of relationship together for this posting and for so clearly sharing with us the gratitude that both you and I feel because your actress friend and my friend of twenty-five years chose us to be part of their life. So much for which to be grateful. And as you and I both know, at the end, all that matters is love. Everything else seems ephemeral. Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-54016134331089390252013-07-14T11:12:22.411-07:002013-07-14T11:12:22.411-07:00I'm so sorry to hear of our friend Dee's l...I'm so sorry to hear of our friend Dee's loss. No matter how many years in the interlude, those places they hold in our hearts are still there.<br /><br />What a wise, true piece you've written. I'll be thinking about it throughout the day today.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04930262815304757150noreply@blogger.com