tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.comments2024-03-15T22:00:36.095-07:00Dr. Kathy McCoy: Living Fully in Midlife and BeyondDr. Kathy McCoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02903015507894951725noreply@blogger.comBlogger4278125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-69429218672168293802024-03-11T11:31:44.132-07:002024-03-11T11:31:44.132-07:00That was such a touching memoir. It's wonderf...That was such a touching memoir. It's wonderful to be able to have such relationships in one's life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-69687518153077665062024-02-13T01:10:39.440-07:002024-02-13T01:10:39.440-07:00Insightful guidance for parents navigating the com...Insightful guidance for parents navigating the complexities of supporting adult children during tough times. A must-read for nurturing resilient relationships. <a href="https://thetherapyroomflorida.com/" rel="nofollow">The Therapy Room Mind Health And Wellness</a>The Therapy Room Mind Health And Wellnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06337177998722934019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-63904461731044188472024-02-01T01:44:29.802-07:002024-02-01T01:44:29.802-07:00❤️🙏❤️🙏Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-58628942908475427362024-01-07T05:31:29.603-07:002024-01-07T05:31:29.603-07:00WOW! What a great way to articulate the problem w...WOW! What a great way to articulate the problem without getting loud and angry about it (which would likely only make matters worse). I only wish that my ex had had the balls to do the same with my awful ex (thankfully) MIL and ex sister-in-law.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-64132660061958911992024-01-07T03:54:30.850-07:002024-01-07T03:54:30.850-07:00Me too!
Me too!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-20885202289278260242023-12-29T17:22:45.673-07:002023-12-29T17:22:45.673-07:00So beautifully told, as only you can do. What a tr...So beautifully told, as only you can do. What a truly wonderful friendship you had. Though he is gone, he will always remain in your heartAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-82388857648152883662023-12-29T08:29:04.445-07:002023-12-29T08:29:04.445-07:00Heartfelt ❤️Heartfelt ❤️Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-61997102744651947832023-12-29T07:19:17.339-07:002023-12-29T07:19:17.339-07:00Oh Kathy, I am so glad you wrote about him here an...Oh Kathy, I am so glad you wrote about him here and I hope you found that healing. What an amazing man. What a life. And hat an impact he made on you. Grief is hard -- you're right about how there are no common ways for the "other" -- the friend, the former lover or partner -- to be recognized and I am grateful you are close to Rachel. You had a lifetime together, even if you weren't together physically and it is obvious his love for you was very real. And yes, I would have similar feelings for someone in my past, perhaps not for so long or so deep, but still, significant enough to be a loss. This is beautiful, Kathy. And I am so very sorry it is a post that had to one day be written, for that means the loss is now. And heartbreakingly real.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-13924931797509520132023-12-29T00:02:07.995-07:002023-12-29T00:02:07.995-07:00That is a beautiful recollection of your loving fr...That is a beautiful recollection of your loving friendship with Maurice, Kath. You tell your story with such tenderness, it helps us feel the depth of sweetness you experienced with him. Thank you for letting us know, so personally, who this dear man was, and who he was to you.Mary Breinernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-50441153123119557632023-12-28T15:52:54.227-07:002023-12-28T15:52:54.227-07:00Wow Kathy thank u so much for this — much I did no...Wow Kathy thank u so much for this — much I did not know ( he was secretive!) — 💙💙💙Rachel Wahbanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-7174914845351615082023-12-27T19:57:18.060-07:002023-12-27T19:57:18.060-07:00Maurice sounds like a wonderful person. Your obser...Maurice sounds like a wonderful person. Your observation is so true about there being no rituals to comfort certain categories of the bereaved. How good that Bob understands that you need, nonetheless, to grieve, and how to help you. I'm so sorry for your loss. You were clearly a blessing to him just as much as he was to you; maybe that thought can help bring you a little comfort.jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-2926615395583458422023-12-27T17:59:24.143-07:002023-12-27T17:59:24.143-07:00I am deeply sorry for your loss. You have expresse...I am deeply sorry for your loss. You have expressed sorrow well and can take comfort in such memories of love and friendship.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-25271344350713771082023-08-08T08:21:42.124-07:002023-08-08T08:21:42.124-07:00That is a slippery slope ...you moved in..what bil...That is a slippery slope ...you moved in..what bills do you have ? Do you pay for part of the utilities and mortgage for the house...do you have your own living space within the home or do you just have your bedroom .. there is a lot to consider. Also one is bound to start feeling resentment if you are doing all that extra stuff.. maybe you should stop doing it and let the maid do it .as she is getting paid to do it. But I would be careful about looking at everything your daughter is buying or how much they are pay someone else. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-72731689324222773402023-08-07T10:06:44.249-07:002023-08-07T10:06:44.249-07:00I have tried everything in here and now I am done,...I have tried everything in here and now I am done, my heart breaks, my child has made very bad choices and is definitely paying for it, made a terrible decision at 21 and 7 years later still can't get a job or keep a job (always seems to be let go before the 90 day probation period is over - usually within days of completing the 90 days - suspect, yes, but nothing can be done - it's Florida they have their own rules). I am done bailing him out and he doesn't seem to be learning any lessons. I am so done, I think he will be the death of me (that will be my retirement)... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-59364615205141663262023-01-14T00:51:30.801-07:002023-01-14T00:51:30.801-07:00I have one Daughter 28 who lives five min. Away he...I have one Daughter 28 who lives five min. Away her husbands parents have both lived with them it’s the father now, I only see them maybe twice a month. Am invited over for dinner movie. She texts or calls on way to work but I feel my son in-law would like me gone for good! Now she is pregnant didn’t tell me until weeks after she knew, I <br />said it made me feel like a stranger caused argument now son in law is saying leave her Alone, his parents can cause a lot of stress moving them from state to state and other drama, I say how I feel and am told get lost! Have cried all night and want to move away. I could add a lot of other negative things would be a book. I don’t need my daughter but love her very much, it always feels like they are doing me a favor seeing me. Once baby comes will probably get worse, I am 64 with problems, all this stress and pain has made me sick. Not being able to say how I feel about anything is like walking on egg shells, I’m better off staying away. His father has had surgery back, his mother foot surgery, they were supportive with this, when I talked about having my hernia surgery my son in law made sure to say I needed to go home after a week with the message he didn’t want to help me so I never had it, these are two nurses, if they cared about me they would tell me to get if fixed even if it put them out! They spend two days a week at church, have lots of friends, I think leaving would be better for me. I am to hurt to keep this kind of relationship Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-46249729197263743962022-08-26T10:43:45.322-07:002022-08-26T10:43:45.322-07:00Dear Kathy, as I read each section of this thought...Dear Kathy, as I read each section of this thoughtful posting, based on your own aging, I kept thinking, "Yes! That's right!" I'm about ten years older than you and I've entered a time of gathering the pieces of life, seeing how they fit together, and rejoicing that all has worked out to good. Writing a second memoir is helping with this. Even though I can remember--pretty vividly--the self-loathing I carried for so many years, I now have lived long enough to look back at that young woman who, at forty, found respite, and embrace her and tell her, "All worked out! You 'done did good'!!!" Thank you, once again, for sharing your wisdom and perceptions with us. What a fine counselor you must be and how many lives you have touched with goodness. Peace. Dee ReadyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-76802158824786586242022-08-24T17:30:46.411-07:002022-08-24T17:30:46.411-07:00It’s 2022 and I feel exactly like this Mom. I fee...It’s 2022 and I feel exactly like this Mom. I feel so hurt and empty inside. I also was so very close to my parents as an adult child and loved my relationship with my mother. We spoke every day. I feel this awful emptiness inside and heartache. I often wonder what did I do wrong. I know that I need to move on with my life now because all of my children have but it’s very difficult and the hurt is horrible. I tried my best as a mother and was always there. I honestly feel like just moving far away. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-75343910107095298912022-08-18T09:35:23.726-07:002022-08-18T09:35:23.726-07:00Hi my hubby and I are early retirees and live abro...Hi my hubby and I are early retirees and live abroad. He doesn't phone his grown up kids unless it's their b.days whereas I text or speak to mine most days. We cannot speak the language and live in the countryside with no neughbours. It's 16 mile's from the nearest town. He is quite happy not to see anyone but it is getting me down as we meet up with other ex.pats occasionally but he's not bothered if we don't go. I've tried explaining how depressed I'm getting because of the everyday isolation. I cannot drive and there's no buses that come out where we live. I feel that this life is just a waiting game as he decides everything where we go when etc and I am just waiting for his instructions. I cannot return to the UK as I have no job and no house to go back to. He has always been quiet and not sociable but he's now becoming a hermit and I feel like I'm in a prison. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-16141242364069812082022-06-14T06:16:16.193-07:002022-06-14T06:16:16.193-07:00I'm 56 and agree to all of your observations a...I'm 56 and agree to all of your observations already. With a recent cancer diagnosis for my wife, it has certainly changed our perspective of daily living. Great post!Retirement Coffee Shophttps://retirementcoffeeshop.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-7257670608005299652022-04-28T12:34:13.354-07:002022-04-28T12:34:13.354-07:00Happy Birthday! I'm glad there is now so much ...Happy Birthday! I'm glad there is now so much more positive information out there about aging. Maybe someday we will truly treasure our seniors as treasure troves of wisdom, instead of worshipping youth culture as our society presently does. Hopefully as more of the population "grays," respect will increase.HotFlashHomesteadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05894953352910455222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-44001581876874948892022-04-26T13:33:40.122-07:002022-04-26T13:33:40.122-07:00Happy Birthday, a day late. You have made a number...Happy Birthday, a day late. You have made a number of positive statements about aging -- truly a gift not everyone gets to experience.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-3027168003230009812022-04-26T08:37:23.695-07:002022-04-26T08:37:23.695-07:00First of all, belated happy birthday greetings, Ka...First of all, belated happy birthday greetings, Kathy. I'm a day (or maybe two) late, but they are nonetheless heartfelt. (And I remember Johnny Tillotson, too.) <br /><br />Your words, as always, are eloquent and spot on. I had to laugh at the memory of looking at old photos with friends and marveling on how great you looked! My friend Carol and I did that not long ago and our comment to each other was "We thought we were so fat then." I'd kill to look that way again, for even a week! And appreciating all we have, not sweating the small stuff, and yes, being thankful for the health we do have -- even if it isn't always the best. I move more slowly and not so easily as I once did. But I still move! Lovely indeed, Kathy.<br /><br />Here's to a wonderful new year for you, my friend. One with joy.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-81471523688625291092022-04-25T18:05:20.764-07:002022-04-25T18:05:20.764-07:00I agree with your post entirely. Welcome to the &...I agree with your post entirely. Welcome to the "77 club" of which i am already a member. We're still a pretty active group!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-26949625216015377622022-04-25T18:01:39.503-07:002022-04-25T18:01:39.503-07:00Great post, Kathy. I find what you say is true ab...Great post, Kathy. I find what you say is true about feeling comfortable in one's own skin. Rather than seeing other woman as possible physical competitors, with better hair, skin, and figures, I and most of my friends view each other as friends and people of great support. It's very liberating. Hope all is well with you. Keep on keepin' on. Love, Georgie.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06669672258095825185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7754684819908801536.post-53783104842530273902022-04-25T17:24:45.835-07:002022-04-25T17:24:45.835-07:00Love this post, so full of things we need to remem...Love this post, so full of things we need to remember. However, I admit, I do not remember Johnny Tillotson. I'll have to look him up -- bet he's son youtube.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.com